are you cool with Bucky's realizing it's not vanilla but knowing Steve is really into it? like, he knows vanilla sex is a thing, but Steve also has a major kink and Bucky wants to indulge him (even though it makes him kind of miserable)

also how do you feel about Bucky being kind of turned on and horrified at being on the other side of it, like, how could he possibly enjoy saying this shit to Steve (but oh, he does)

if that's not your cup of tea I will save my ideas for another time