oh no my heart D: would Bucky be aware of the other side of the consent problem, about whether his partner is okay with hearing about the sordid details he feels like they need to hear? how messed up an impossible situation would it be if the partner felt like they could handle knowing about the abuse in general terms, but found it too upsetting (on Bucky's behalf, knowing how badly he was abused) to hear about the kind of specifics Bucky felt like he had to give in order for the partner to make informed consent ):