He would be aware of that to a point, yes, and he certainly wouldn't specifically do it to hurt that person (though maybe does want to push them away subconsciously).

The issue there, however, that he WOULD be pretty adamant about it *needing it to be done*. He wouldn't push the stories on his partner if they told him they don't want it, or stop if they get too upset - however, that would lead to him not letting the relationship progress.

I guess it could be seen as emotional blackmail(though that certainly would not be his intent), because the partner would have to endure these stories to be allowed close, and to be allowed physical contact.

So I guess that sort of would put them in a pickle: How much are the willing to endure for say, Bucky allowing them to hold him, or before they can can give him even a chaste kiss.

So it's very much consent, and the partner would be very much in control (but in practice that means the get to decide how much they want to be emotionally hurt by this, and also, how much the's willing to see buck upset - because it IS upsetting to him.

And yeah, I think the details might definitely be more than they bargained for.