I actually had a lot of luck with one HTP-er when doing a combo of summarizing the rules plus pointing out how darkfic are highly controlled entities for exploring trauma. But I also realize that I’m lucky that I wasn’t flamed back because the person later admitted she had “unconventional methods” for dealing with trauma and that she took my word about what the rules were.

While she admitted she still had reservations about darkfic comms since you sometimes can’t tell who’s there to get their rape fantasy on vs. who’s there to get their rapist fantasy on, knowing the rules here really calmed her down about this darkfic comm.