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hydratrashmeme2014-11-15 10:27 am
trashmod) wrote in hydratrashmeme2014-11-15 10:27 am
Chatter post
For all your discussion needs.
Ground rules:
- Try to keep it loosely trash party related, or at least Cap fandom related.
- Disagreement is fine, nastiness is not.
- Being offended is not carte blanche for nastiness.
- Trashmeme ground rules apply. Read at your own risk, no romanticizing your noncon garbage, no wank about the moral acceptability of noncon kink.
- Body shots, sniper shots, and tetanus shots are all available at the open bar. Party like it's 2014, kids.
Ground rules:
- Try to keep it loosely trash party related, or at least Cap fandom related.
- Disagreement is fine, nastiness is not.
- Being offended is not carte blanche for nastiness.
- Trashmeme ground rules apply. Read at your own risk, no romanticizing your noncon garbage, no wank about the moral acceptability of noncon kink.
- Body shots, sniper shots, and tetanus shots are all available at the open bar. Party like it's 2014, kids.
Re: Tumblr Drama - Round 2
(Anonymous) 2015-03-25 01:48 am (UTC)(link)(long, weird and probably nonsensical rant to follow:)
Whelp, no, actually it's people daring to tell survivors how they're fucked and sick and wrong if they like it/cope in a not-approved-by-fandom-police-way.
Especially when so much other stuff that would be horrible irl gets a pass in fiction, and fanfic, yet somehow, magically, sexual violence is the one thing that can't be written about in fic (as if it weren't something that happened in canon to many female characters or served as a backstory, hell, as if there weren't entire TV shows based on sex crimes/most crime shows don't have sexually motivated plots as plot of the week).
To me, this honestly feels too much like irl. Everyone agrees that sexual violence is the worst in theory, when in practice it's all to easy to dismiss survivors who cope in the wrong way, who don't recover fast enough or never fully, who are even upset when it never escalated to full-blown assault, and so on.
It's not the same thing, obviously, not at all and not by far the worst, but as someone who more than half a lifetime later still struggles, still has a shit-ton of issues, has done better and worse on-and-off, it just makes me a hella angry when people dare to act like they are some sort of authority when in fact, they have no clue what they're even talking about but have no qualms whatsoever about throwing others under the bus for not being the perfect survivor with the perfect recovery story to follow.