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hydratrashmeme2014-11-15 10:27 am
trashmod) wrote in hydratrashmeme2014-11-15 10:27 am
Chatter post
For all your discussion needs.
Ground rules:
- Try to keep it loosely trash party related, or at least Cap fandom related.
- Disagreement is fine, nastiness is not.
- Being offended is not carte blanche for nastiness.
- Trashmeme ground rules apply. Read at your own risk, no romanticizing your noncon garbage, no wank about the moral acceptability of noncon kink.
- Body shots, sniper shots, and tetanus shots are all available at the open bar. Party like it's 2014, kids.
Ground rules:
- Try to keep it loosely trash party related, or at least Cap fandom related.
- Disagreement is fine, nastiness is not.
- Being offended is not carte blanche for nastiness.
- Trashmeme ground rules apply. Read at your own risk, no romanticizing your noncon garbage, no wank about the moral acceptability of noncon kink.
- Body shots, sniper shots, and tetanus shots are all available at the open bar. Party like it's 2014, kids.
Re: Anti-wank resource?
(Anonymous) 2015-04-03 06:18 am (UTC)(link)my only feedback is re: the /sexualizing page:
i feel like there's a strict binary set up between sex-negative and sex-positive thought and i wonder if that binary is somewhat limiting? i think there are ways in which people actually can be critical about the media/porn they consume and question where certain fetishes/kinks/fantasies come from - but also be open to experimentation, play, and fantasy in safe or fictional settings.
personally i think there's some truth to the argument that people have these desires in the first place [because] they’ve been subconsciously influenced by rape culture and the patriarchy - but i also believe that people are free to reclaim and explore these things on their own terms and in their own ways. i guess it just it seems a little off to me to never consider/question the nature of one's violent/rape-oriented fantasies or where they come from.
and like, admittedly this might just be a personal problem - as someone who was groomed into bdsm/fetish stuff from a grossly young age, questioning/criticizing my sexuality as an adult has been an empowering thing for me. and it hasn't always necessarily led to negativity/dismissal of the fantasies/practices in question. it's just made me consider what i really enjoy and why and how to better explore it safely.
but i'm rambling! and i mostly read htp stuff for the angst anyway, so maybe i'm in the minority here.
Re: Anti-wank resource?
(Anonymous) 2015-04-03 09:34 am (UTC)(link)