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Comments

Re: (Child abuse, rape) Not HTP related- but hoping I can get some advice-

[(Anonymous)]

I don't have time to read the article, but your teacher's response to you was really out of line!

To a degree, I don't think anything can be said to be objectively triggering. So if you're asking, do other people think it's triggering and therefore it's okay for you to have a problem with this--there's no answer to that question. Somebody might be horribly triggered by something mundane that is very close to their traumatic experience (like a food or a color), that is objectively innocent, that no one could be expected to warn for; and not triggered by something very violent.

However, it seems reasonable to warn for something as graphic and disturbing as this article sounds like it was--not a trigger warning, but a content warning, that this would probably be somewhat disturbing even to the average person who doesn't have related trauma. Warnings like that are something even the mainstream media does.

Plus, she did give a warning but the warning sounds like it was misleading. If she was going to do the warning, it seems fair for you to ask that it be accurate.

I don't know what you said in your message, but aside from whether she should have warned or not, it sucks that she responded in such a harsh way to a student who was upset! That seems the most inappropriate aspect of this to me.

Re: (Child abuse, rape) Not HTP related- but hoping I can get some advice-

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks, it was "The Eli "Stones" paper had child rape in it, it graphically describes the rape of a girl by her father. At one point they describe how he ripped into her flesh, describing horrific violence and brutality. I personally was so triggered by this I spent two hours literally frozen in flashbacks before needing to spend a further two hours on the phone with my therapist. There was absolutely no warning that rape was going to be involved in this, let alone child rape. I can not even begin to express how disturbing this was for me. I am sure even NT students are having this sprung on them.

If I had known there was going to be child rape discussed in this course, I would have dropped it day 1. As it is, the "Touches on child abuse" would cover her initial descriptions of her father hitting her, and nothing more. This was far more than "Touching" on anything, and with the fact that roughly 1/8th of the females in school having suffered a molestation or rape, material that covers rape as a topic needs to be clearly marked for our own self care.

This was sprung on me, and honestly, if you had warned about the CHILD RAPE I would have known to ask for an alternative paper or accommodation, if not dropped the course altogether."

Which, I thought was good considering at the time I was still shaking.