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For all your discussion needs.

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- Try to keep it loosely trash party related, or at least Cap fandom related.
- Disagreement is fine, nastiness is not.
- Being offended is not carte blanche for nastiness.
- Trashmeme ground rules apply. Read at your own risk, no romanticizing your noncon garbage, no wank about the moral acceptability of noncon kink.
- Body shots, sniper shots, and tetanus shots are all available at the open bar. Party like it's 2014, kids.

Comments

Re: Do ace people have kinks?

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, some ace people do have kinks. Being asexual just means not feeling sexual attraction towards other people; it's like being, say, a gay man in a room full of women - technically, you could have sex with these women but you don't feel sexually attracted to them and really you'd rather not. Being ace is like that, only with any and all genders.

Some ace people don't have sex at all, while others are sex-neutral (don't really see the point of sex but will do it to e.g. de-stress or make their partner(s) happy) or sex-positive (enjoy the physical feeling of sex). Sex-neutral and sex-positive aces can have kinks that make the sexual experience more enjoyable for them. Kinks are separate from attraction to people, and some kinks can be enjoyed without a partner or even without sex. So aces can and do have kinks, and this has no effect on whether they're asexual or not. :)

Re: Do ace people have kinks?

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP, but does that mean that Ace Jack Rollins may, for example, find the feeling of getting his dick sucked comparable to a nice hot bath (pleasant but not really arousing unless in a purely physical, reflex arch kind of way)?

Re: Do ace people have kinks?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I think that's up to the writer to decide. I'm a sex-positive ace myself; I enjoy the physical sensation of being touched intimately by a trusted partner even though I don't experience sexual attraction. In my relationships, I have never initiated sex, but I do respond positively when a partner initiates sex with me. Before I realised I was ace this caused some problems: one ex became convinced I didn't care about him because I never seemed to want him sexually like he wanted me (and technically it's true that I didn't, but that didn't mean I didn't love him romantically).

For me, the physical sensation of sex is enjoyable, but I've never looked at someone and had the impulse or desire to have sex with them. I haven't had sex in almost eight years and I don't miss it, but if I got an allosexual partner I would have sex with them if they wanted it and enjoy it well enough.

Bear in mind that sex-neutral and sex-repulsed aces have their own experiences, of course. :)

Re: Do ace people have kinks?

[(Anonymous)]

How do you headcanon Jack?