Chatter post

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For all your discussion needs.

Ground rules:
- Try to keep it loosely trash party related, or at least Cap fandom related.
- Disagreement is fine, nastiness is not.
- Being offended is not carte blanche for nastiness.
- Trashmeme ground rules apply. Read at your own risk, no romanticizing your noncon garbage, no wank about the moral acceptability of noncon kink.
- Body shots, sniper shots, and tetanus shots are all available at the open bar. Party like it's 2014, kids.

Comments

Re: Non-con fantasies

[(Anonymous)]

*jumps in late to the conversation*

it doesn't necessarily have to be non-con, but some kind of power dynamic is a must for it to "work"

That describes me pretty well, though when I was younger there also had to be some kind of pretty serious pain element. Like, when I first hit puberty I spent a lot of time really freaked out over my fantasies, because my budding sexual fantasies involved a lot of pain and blood and being watched and not much of what most people would actually call sex right from the get-go. The most frustrating part about it to me, though, is that I'm actually a total wuss and while fantasies of pain and mutilation get me off, actual real-life pain turns me off.

I think it might be one of the reasons why noncon fantasies started appealing to me so much as I got older. Pretty much anyone I've ever heard talk about noncon fantasies doesn't actually want to be raped, they want the illusion of rape. That desire for the illusion of pain and violation that I actually control, and which has no effect outside the bedroom, is what I want.

It makes it incredibly difficult to find a partner who I really click with, because my ideal sexual experience would be a partner gently touching me without any form of penetration while dirty talking about all the pain/humiliation/violation/etc they're going to inflict. My second best ideal experience would be playing the stone top role and doing terrible things to my partner that they get off on. Finding someone to fulfill one of those roles is hard enough. I've sort of given up on finding someone who could fulfill both of those roles, which might be why I'm so interested in finding a poly relationship.

Re: Non-con fantasies

[(Anonymous)]

my ideal sexual experience would be a partner gently touching me without any form of penetration while dirty talking about all the pain/humiliation/violation/etc they're going to inflict.

Marry me

Re: Non-con fantasies

[(Anonymous)]

+1