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hydratrashmeme2015-09-09 07:23 pm
trashmod) wrote in hydratrashmeme2015-09-09 07:23 pm
Dumpster #3: The Great Pacific Garbage Patch
Holy shitballs, look at us go. Welcome to Captain America fandom's resident wretched hive of scum and villainy: ROUND THREE. AKA Bad Guys Do Dirtybadwrong Things To Your Faves, AKA the Hydra Trash Party kinkmeme. As usual, BLANKET NON-CON AND NSFW WARNINGS apply: just assume going in that everything in this landfill is unfit for human consumption.
Rules in brief: don't be a jerk except to fictional characters, warnings for particularly fucked-up garbage are nice but not required, thou shalt not judge the trashiness of thy neighbor's kinks unless thy neighbor is trying to pass off their rotting banana peels and half-eaten pizza crusts as a healthy romantic dinner for two, off-topic comments may be chucked out of the dumpster at management's discretion, management's discretion decrees that omegaverse, soulbond AUs, D/s-verse, non-superpowered AUs, and dark!good guys AUs are off-topic.
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Rules in brief: don't be a jerk except to fictional characters, warnings for particularly fucked-up garbage are nice but not required, thou shalt not judge the trashiness of thy neighbor's kinks unless thy neighbor is trying to pass off their rotting banana peels and half-eaten pizza crusts as a healthy romantic dinner for two, off-topic comments may be chucked out of the dumpster at management's discretion, management's discretion decrees that omegaverse, soulbond AUs, D/s-verse, non-superpowered AUs, and dark!good guys AUs are off-topic.
[Round 1] [Round 2] [Fill post] [Chatter post] [hydratrashmeme Pinboard archive (maintained by
greenkirtle)] [Round 3 in flat view (comments in non-threaded chronological order, most recent last)]Round 3 is closed; comments and fills in existing threads are still welcome, but all new prompts go to Round 4.
(frozen comment) Re: more for less, 7c/~10
(Anonymous) 2016-04-06 04:07 pm (UTC)(link)I think the issue here is that Sam is indeed behaving less-than-perfectly. Am I frustrated that Sam's response has been to cut himself off from Steve and Bucky? Yes. Do I think that's selfish of him and ultimately damaging to everyone involved? Yes.
But do I think it is a natural, human response? Yes. Especially given the limited information that Sam has:
(a) Steve had gotten James' assurance that he won't be sleeping with anyone else, so Sam assumes that James is safe in that regard.
(b) Steve has told Sam that basically the relationship that they thought was consensual was basically not, and Sam needs to wrap his head around all of his assumptions about James.
(c) James himself tells Sam that he only feels pain and fear when being with Sam.
One thing that I've been enjoying about this fic is that no one is perfect -- Sam, Steve, and James all have communication issues and their conversations are heartbreakingly at cross-purposes. And given the above, I think it's perfectly reasonable for Sam to say "hey, I need a week or two to myself." And to have Sam singled out as an abuser is somewhat odd because it implies that Sam is expected to be the perfect good guy with the therapist training who always puts others' needs in front of himself. And I don't know about you, but when my relationships are going through rough times, it's *really* hard to be professional. I just don't have headspace to deal with both. That's where I see Sam as being. Is it frustrating? Yes. But it's also human.
Also, to the point of abusers and it seeming like we're defending an abuser -- I'd like to point out the other character in this story who is an actual abuser -- Daniel. He's in a separate relationship with a girl and doesn't tell her about James. He starts out as a friend/acquaintance. After he realizes that James is messed-up about sex, he doesn't stop -- he just becomes more cruel and manipulative. He is arrogant and self-absorbed. He objectifies James and uses him without any concern for James' well-being, but I'm sure in class he pretends they're friends. If you pointed to Daniel and said he's sexually abusive, I for one would be like "heck yeah he's creepy as fuck." And comparing the difference between Daniel and Sam/Steve is the difference between bad people being intentionally evil and good people making mistakes. Sam and Steve make their decisions out of caring for James. Imagine if James showed up to Sam's place to beg Sam to take Steve back, and Sam said, "Okay, but only if you secretly fuck me on the side." *That* would be evil. Instead, Sam's like "I need some time to myself, please respect that." Does it harm James? Definitely. Is it evil/abusive? No.